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Wednesday, March 23, 2005
| Timeless |
so much stuff to type, gosh! seemed to have lost track of time! this week would be a short week for me because i'm on halfday leave today and tomorrow because i've got stuff on both afternoons, and Good Friday is a public holiday, in short, this week is short. *grinz*
last week, we were invited to York Hotel for their famous Penang Hawker's Food Fair, and guess what? it was on the house, heh! but i must say it was good, the food were authentic, just like what you would find in Penang or KL itself. the buffet pricing was a little steep though, but i guess all under one roof, air-conditioning, well worth the money. *winkz*
::managed to only catch one pic for the entire time i was there, argh!::
thereafter, we had a little tour round the hotel and were invited to see some of their rooms. it wasn't too bad.
::that's biscuit in one of the rooms::
::yours truly in one of the bathrooms *heh*::
::and in the night, my boy was entitled to his well-deserved night's off because of another gold for his ippt::
then last weekend, like all other weekends, were filled with love. *hee* met my boy on saturday afternoon because he had live firing in the morning. went for his buddy's birthday celebration kinda thing @ fish & co. which reminds me, i don't have any pics on that. *oops*
but i do have some pics on what we were up to at the silly neoprint stand last wednesday night. *lolz*
::our couple keychain from levi's, cute huh?::
::this is what's in my keychain::
::and this is what's in his keychain *blush*::
oh oh and guess what we did on sunday night since my boy only had to book-in on monday morning? yours truly became his hairstylist. *tongue sticking out*
::nice nice??? *chuckles*::
last week, we were invited to York Hotel for their famous Penang Hawker's Food Fair, and guess what? it was on the house, heh! but i must say it was good, the food were authentic, just like what you would find in Penang or KL itself. the buffet pricing was a little steep though, but i guess all under one roof, air-conditioning, well worth the money. *winkz*
::managed to only catch one pic for the entire time i was there, argh!::
thereafter, we had a little tour round the hotel and were invited to see some of their rooms. it wasn't too bad.
::that's biscuit in one of the rooms::
::yours truly in one of the bathrooms *heh*::
::and in the night, my boy was entitled to his well-deserved night's off because of another gold for his ippt::
then last weekend, like all other weekends, were filled with love. *hee* met my boy on saturday afternoon because he had live firing in the morning. went for his buddy's birthday celebration kinda thing @ fish & co. which reminds me, i don't have any pics on that. *oops*
but i do have some pics on what we were up to at the silly neoprint stand last wednesday night. *lolz*
::our couple keychain from levi's, cute huh?::
::this is what's in my keychain::
::and this is what's in his keychain *blush*::
oh oh and guess what we did on sunday night since my boy only had to book-in on monday morning? yours truly became his hairstylist. *tongue sticking out*
::nice nice??? *chuckles*::
Monday, March 21, 2005
| Palm Sunday |
yesterday was Palm Sunday or also known as Sunday of the Passion. it follows Jesus' last week on earth, from his glorious entry as King into Jerusalem on that Sunday until Friday where He was humiliated, suffered and nailed to the cross for the forgiveness of the World.
this week is known as the Holy Week. i urge you to reflect upon the entire chapter of Isaiah 53, for Jesus' suffering was foretold way before in the Old Testament:
Who has believed our message
and to whom has the arm of the LORD been revealed?
He grew up before him like a tender shoot,
and like a root out of dry ground.
He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him,
nothing in his appearance that we should desire him.
He was despised and rejected by men,
a man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering.
Like one from whom men hide their faces
he was despised, and we esteemed him not.
Surely he took up our infirmities
and carried our sorrows,
yet we considered him stricken by God,
smitten by him, and afflicted.
But he was pierced for our transgressions,
he was crushed for our iniquities;
the punishment that brought us peace was upon him,
and by his wounds we are healed.
We all, like sheep, have gone astray,
each of us has turned to his own way;
and the LORD has laid on him
the iniquity of us all.
He was oppressed and afflicted,
yet he did not open his mouth;
he was led like a lamb to the slaughter,
and as a sheep before her shearers is silent,
so he did not open his mouth.
By oppression and judgment he was taken away.
And who can speak of his descendants?
For he was cut off from the land of the living;
for the transgression of my people he was stricken.
He was assigned a grave with the wicked,
and with the rich in his death,
though he had done no violence,
nor was any deceit in his mouth.
Yet it was the LORD's will to crush him and cause him to suffer,
and though the LORD makes his life a guilt offering,
he will see his offspring and prolong his days,
and the will of the LORD will prosper in his hand.
After the suffering of his soul,
he will see the light of life and be satisfied ;
by his knowledge my righteous servant will justify many,
and he will bear their iniquities.
Therefore I will give him a portion among the great,
and he will divide the spoils with the strong,
because he poured out his life unto death,
and was numbered with the transgressors.
For he bore the sin of many,
and made intercession for the transgressors.
in Psalm 22, Jesus' pain and cries were spoken of by the psalmist, which reminds me of yesterday's entry of the Daily Bread. it taught us how we should "make Jesus the Lord of our lives by bowing to His authority as King." in it also spoke of how we should not be "like the man who claimed to be a Christian but still chose to live in sin."
there, daily bread for the soul!
May all that i am, honour Your Holy Name,
May all that i do, bless Your Holy Name,
May all that i say, glorify Your Holy Name,
For your Name is the Name above all names,
King of Kings, and Lord of Lords, Amen!
this week is known as the Holy Week. i urge you to reflect upon the entire chapter of Isaiah 53, for Jesus' suffering was foretold way before in the Old Testament:
Who has believed our message
and to whom has the arm of the LORD been revealed?
He grew up before him like a tender shoot,
and like a root out of dry ground.
He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him,
nothing in his appearance that we should desire him.
He was despised and rejected by men,
a man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering.
Like one from whom men hide their faces
he was despised, and we esteemed him not.
Surely he took up our infirmities
and carried our sorrows,
yet we considered him stricken by God,
smitten by him, and afflicted.
But he was pierced for our transgressions,
he was crushed for our iniquities;
the punishment that brought us peace was upon him,
and by his wounds we are healed.
We all, like sheep, have gone astray,
each of us has turned to his own way;
and the LORD has laid on him
the iniquity of us all.
He was oppressed and afflicted,
yet he did not open his mouth;
he was led like a lamb to the slaughter,
and as a sheep before her shearers is silent,
so he did not open his mouth.
By oppression and judgment he was taken away.
And who can speak of his descendants?
For he was cut off from the land of the living;
for the transgression of my people he was stricken.
He was assigned a grave with the wicked,
and with the rich in his death,
though he had done no violence,
nor was any deceit in his mouth.
Yet it was the LORD's will to crush him and cause him to suffer,
and though the LORD makes his life a guilt offering,
he will see his offspring and prolong his days,
and the will of the LORD will prosper in his hand.
After the suffering of his soul,
he will see the light of life and be satisfied ;
by his knowledge my righteous servant will justify many,
and he will bear their iniquities.
Therefore I will give him a portion among the great,
and he will divide the spoils with the strong,
because he poured out his life unto death,
and was numbered with the transgressors.
For he bore the sin of many,
and made intercession for the transgressors.
in Psalm 22, Jesus' pain and cries were spoken of by the psalmist, which reminds me of yesterday's entry of the Daily Bread. it taught us how we should "make Jesus the Lord of our lives by bowing to His authority as King." in it also spoke of how we should not be "like the man who claimed to be a Christian but still chose to live in sin."
there, daily bread for the soul!
May all that i am, honour Your Holy Name,
May all that i do, bless Your Holy Name,
May all that i say, glorify Your Holy Name,
For your Name is the Name above all names,
King of Kings, and Lord of Lords, Amen!
| Movie Mania |
these are the 3 movies i wanna catch no matter what!
aim: by the end of this week
*hint hint*
*laughz sheepishly*
aim: by the end of this week
*hint hint*
*laughz sheepishly*
Friday, March 18, 2005
| Friendships |
all my life, i've tried to be as good a friend as i possibly could to others.
i don't dare claim success because i've been told i could never keep friends.
here and there, there will be some people who'd walk in and outta my life.
but who can i really call a friend?
issit someone who always calls you up to chat?
issit someone who makes it a point to chat with you on MSN or on YM?
issit someone who meets up with you once in a while?
issit someone who tries to believes you but can never really trust you?
i guess what i'm really trying to say is that,
friendships never fail to get me in a fix.
maybe its because i'd always had a soft spot for them.
friendship needs effort, and friendship takes two to clap.
friendship isn't one-sided, and most importantly, friends should always have the time to drop a simple note, even a simple 'hi' makes hellva difference.
if i had to betray someone in order to get both my good friends to believe me,
what good are those friendship?
there was never trust in the beginning, then how will the future be like?
its ok to take sides, i admit i did too.
but there was no trust, there was never trust.
once again, disappointment.
so now, i'll relinquish all hopes of friendship,
i'll never hope another friendship to last,
because i don't believe in friendships anymore,
except for Jesus' and mine.
He'll always be my best Friend.
i don't dare claim success because i've been told i could never keep friends.
here and there, there will be some people who'd walk in and outta my life.
but who can i really call a friend?
issit someone who always calls you up to chat?
issit someone who makes it a point to chat with you on MSN or on YM?
issit someone who meets up with you once in a while?
issit someone who tries to believes you but can never really trust you?
i guess what i'm really trying to say is that,
friendships never fail to get me in a fix.
maybe its because i'd always had a soft spot for them.
friendship needs effort, and friendship takes two to clap.
friendship isn't one-sided, and most importantly, friends should always have the time to drop a simple note, even a simple 'hi' makes hellva difference.
if i had to betray someone in order to get both my good friends to believe me,
what good are those friendship?
there was never trust in the beginning, then how will the future be like?
its ok to take sides, i admit i did too.
but there was no trust, there was never trust.
once again, disappointment.
so now, i'll relinquish all hopes of friendship,
i'll never hope another friendship to last,
because i don't believe in friendships anymore,
except for Jesus' and mine.
He'll always be my best Friend.
Thursday, March 17, 2005
| Monotonous |
a friend's mom is unwell, i'm keeping her in prayer.
my parents are finally back from their trip, oh how i missed them!
my pup's the world happiest dog since their return.
::finally sleeping peacefully::
last night was my boy's night's off, which meant he got to stay out till this morning where he booked in before 9am.
we went to the neoprint shop in far east plaza last night, we felt ancient in there. *lolz* couldn't understand how those machines work, and we couldn't figure it out, so we got something really funny in the end.
i booked my final theory test this morning, it'll be next month. my practical will be starting next month too. i've got new commitments now, and i can't fool around anymore. *pouts* i already paid up for 10 lessons, so i'm officially broke. nah i'm kidding, my parents are financing.
last weekend while i was out with my boy, i had a major retail therapy session. got my adidas sports watch (its red in color), bought an adidas spectacle box (also red in color), got a new pair of shades from topshop, a slighter more tinted brown one which will help me look more mature (i'm still mistaken by so many pple that i'm a poly undergrad?! *shrugz* guess i can't help it either when i just look so young). got 2 prezzies for dear's friend and his lil sista, and lastly, my levi's ladies classic jeans. been wanting to get rid of my club levi's cash voucher, so i took the opportunity and got my pair for less than $150. good buy i must say. *winkz* oh and my most pricey merchandise of the month: my Victoria Secret's. still waiting for my package to arrive though, and as promised dear, i'll fast from Victoria Secret's for at least 3 months.
and oh hey, new word i just learnt from my lady boss: INSINUATE. meaning provoking gradual doubt or suspicion; suggestive: insinuating remarks.
maybe i should help explain this word by giving a couple of examples. appropriate usage of this word should only be in the following:
1. when you insinuate someone, it means that you've never once, given him/her the benefit of doubt; meaning you've always doubted, suspected and was even certain that he/she did commit a crime or unforgivable act against you, even though he/she may have already clarified matters with you. "someone is insinuating me!" - this means that someone's been accused and i absolutely despise people who accuse others without any grounds.
2. there were some rather insinuating remarks about someone, and that person is upset.
3. insinuation occurs when you gradually and insidiously try to suggest, and plant wrong ideas about a particular person into other people's mind.
see, better understanding now? this word ain't so hard after all. heh, will see what other new words i come across and i'll definitely share them when i have the time! man i feel like a teacher already, ha!
my parents are finally back from their trip, oh how i missed them!
my pup's the world happiest dog since their return.
::finally sleeping peacefully::
last night was my boy's night's off, which meant he got to stay out till this morning where he booked in before 9am.
we went to the neoprint shop in far east plaza last night, we felt ancient in there. *lolz* couldn't understand how those machines work, and we couldn't figure it out, so we got something really funny in the end.
i booked my final theory test this morning, it'll be next month. my practical will be starting next month too. i've got new commitments now, and i can't fool around anymore. *pouts* i already paid up for 10 lessons, so i'm officially broke. nah i'm kidding, my parents are financing.
last weekend while i was out with my boy, i had a major retail therapy session. got my adidas sports watch (its red in color), bought an adidas spectacle box (also red in color), got a new pair of shades from topshop, a slighter more tinted brown one which will help me look more mature (i'm still mistaken by so many pple that i'm a poly undergrad?! *shrugz* guess i can't help it either when i just look so young). got 2 prezzies for dear's friend and his lil sista, and lastly, my levi's ladies classic jeans. been wanting to get rid of my club levi's cash voucher, so i took the opportunity and got my pair for less than $150. good buy i must say. *winkz* oh and my most pricey merchandise of the month: my Victoria Secret's. still waiting for my package to arrive though, and as promised dear, i'll fast from Victoria Secret's for at least 3 months.
and oh hey, new word i just learnt from my lady boss: INSINUATE. meaning provoking gradual doubt or suspicion; suggestive: insinuating remarks.
maybe i should help explain this word by giving a couple of examples. appropriate usage of this word should only be in the following:
1. when you insinuate someone, it means that you've never once, given him/her the benefit of doubt; meaning you've always doubted, suspected and was even certain that he/she did commit a crime or unforgivable act against you, even though he/she may have already clarified matters with you. "someone is insinuating me!" - this means that someone's been accused and i absolutely despise people who accuse others without any grounds.
2. there were some rather insinuating remarks about someone, and that person is upset.
3. insinuation occurs when you gradually and insidiously try to suggest, and plant wrong ideas about a particular person into other people's mind.
see, better understanding now? this word ain't so hard after all. heh, will see what other new words i come across and i'll definitely share them when i have the time! man i feel like a teacher already, ha!
Tuesday, March 15, 2005
| Poser |
according to the dictionary, a poser is one who:
1. habitually pretends to be something he/she is not
2. (is) a wannabee
hmmm..let's see, why have i raised this topic again? that's because someone's doing it again! ok, maybe i shouldn't pick on them since they only have that much of brain cells as to imitate me. rather, let's laugh at them. or should i say, her? see, i too have a avid fan on my blogsite.
*wild laughter* how can anyone try to pose as me? you'll never make it my dear. why don't you just give it up and try to be yourself instead? really, its disgusting of you to keep trying and trying and nevertheless still unrepentent and unrelenting. oh oh and i dare you to own up and do a self-confession here that you've been dropping by my blog every now and then, taking ideas and copying them? Ha, i bet you'll never admit it because you're a downright loser and poser. oh see, it rhymes! *wild laughter*
i am so tickled! issit because my ideas are more original than yours? i've got a better personality than you? or issit because you're simply jealous and you just wanna try to be like me? its ok if you lack creativity, but please don't act smart, its so funny that when my deardear saw it, for the first time, he was speechless. and he kept laughing and laughing, he just couldn't take it. oh look, now even my toes are laughing! you never fail to amuse me, really.
honestly, if its just attention that you're seeking, then i shall not bestow on you anymore. once and for all, just get outta my life!
1. habitually pretends to be something he/she is not
2. (is) a wannabee
hmmm..let's see, why have i raised this topic again? that's because someone's doing it again! ok, maybe i shouldn't pick on them since they only have that much of brain cells as to imitate me. rather, let's laugh at them. or should i say, her? see, i too have a avid fan on my blogsite.
*wild laughter* how can anyone try to pose as me? you'll never make it my dear. why don't you just give it up and try to be yourself instead? really, its disgusting of you to keep trying and trying and nevertheless still unrepentent and unrelenting. oh oh and i dare you to own up and do a self-confession here that you've been dropping by my blog every now and then, taking ideas and copying them? Ha, i bet you'll never admit it because you're a downright loser and poser. oh see, it rhymes! *wild laughter*
i am so tickled! issit because my ideas are more original than yours? i've got a better personality than you? or issit because you're simply jealous and you just wanna try to be like me? its ok if you lack creativity, but please don't act smart, its so funny that when my deardear saw it, for the first time, he was speechless. and he kept laughing and laughing, he just couldn't take it. oh look, now even my toes are laughing! you never fail to amuse me, really.
honestly, if its just attention that you're seeking, then i shall not bestow on you anymore. once and for all, just get outta my life!
Monday, March 14, 2005
| Fun |
the whole weekend was fun fun and fun! *laughz*
friday night was our Health Seminar which was again, a typical madhouse. sales improved way alot, about $12K? *phew* afterwhich, we left for supper at Sheraton Towers. my first time there, and it was wow! now i finally know where the nice fountain background thingy is whenever they film certain dramas. *heh* couldn't get any image of the fountain because it was close to midnight by the time we got there. so the only thing i have is this taken from my mobile:
::@ Sheraton Tower's Coffee House::
had a little chat after our delicious supper and headed home thereafter because the next day, we were to have a ktv session at Party World after work. it was fun and cool listening to my lady boss sing for the first time, and especially uncle jeff with his andy lau/jacky cheung's deep low voice, ha!
::that's uncle jeff behind biscuit and myself, oh and dun mind the stupid hand sign please::
::from left to right: biscuit, suzanna, lady boss, yours truly::
::deardear came along as well and gave me my very first bouquet of tulips, its lovely by the way!::
::there, ain't it pretty?::
friday night was our Health Seminar which was again, a typical madhouse. sales improved way alot, about $12K? *phew* afterwhich, we left for supper at Sheraton Towers. my first time there, and it was wow! now i finally know where the nice fountain background thingy is whenever they film certain dramas. *heh* couldn't get any image of the fountain because it was close to midnight by the time we got there. so the only thing i have is this taken from my mobile:
::@ Sheraton Tower's Coffee House::
had a little chat after our delicious supper and headed home thereafter because the next day, we were to have a ktv session at Party World after work. it was fun and cool listening to my lady boss sing for the first time, and especially uncle jeff with his andy lau/jacky cheung's deep low voice, ha!
::that's uncle jeff behind biscuit and myself, oh and dun mind the stupid hand sign please::
::from left to right: biscuit, suzanna, lady boss, yours truly::
::deardear came along as well and gave me my very first bouquet of tulips, its lovely by the way!::
::there, ain't it pretty?::
Friday, March 11, 2005
| Another Level |
guess what? i passed my Basic Theory Test. *wide grinz* received a letter from the traffic police department last night, i was so nervous i had to ask my mom to open it up for me. and ta-da!
::yours truly's test result::
::yours truly's test result::
Thursday, March 10, 2005
| Chocolatier |
caught a programme last night about this lady who is a Chocolatier. she's been to countries like Brazil and France to learn to become one. i believe she's currently working in Raffles Hotel. cool huh? how many asians, or chinese rather, would think outta the box to venture this career path? not many, and to think she did that. i'm impressed. she also talked about how chocolates need the optimum temperature, which is 18 degree celcius, to stay fresh. also, the concentration of the mind and body to perfecting chocolates. no wonder chocolates don't come cheap. *pouts* but dear and i are chocolate lovers and would die for thick-milky-chocolaty-chocolates. *winkz*
that aside, deardear and i managed to catch some movies which we missed earlier on either due to time constrain or cash flow problems. *tongue sticking out* though not as wow as catching it on-screen, vcd was good enough.
The Terminal wasn't as good as i thought, seemed like an endless wait for Tom Hanks if you ask me, and the language barrier was the killer! anyhow, Meet the Parents was a lot better, though i prefer Meet the Fockers, the serial to the latter.
that aside, deardear and i managed to catch some movies which we missed earlier on either due to time constrain or cash flow problems. *tongue sticking out* though not as wow as catching it on-screen, vcd was good enough.
The Terminal wasn't as good as i thought, seemed like an endless wait for Tom Hanks if you ask me, and the language barrier was the killer! anyhow, Meet the Parents was a lot better, though i prefer Meet the Fockers, the serial to the latter.
Wednesday, March 09, 2005
| Jean's Birthday |
last saturday was Jean's belated 21st birthday party and we went to grab some unlimited flow of food. ha! that's not true of course, i may like pigging sessions, but i'm glam enough to look good while eating this much. *winkz*
::from left to right, yours truly, birthday gal, and biscuit::
::together with terrence this time::
::i dun quite know this gal except we've clubbed once or twice together::
::with my baby this time, and the tallest guy on the extreme left, i believe has a crush on biscuit *lolz*::
well, and before that we caught Hitch and we thought it was rather good. sweet ending, comical storyline, some pretty heart-wretching parts which showed the reasons for the need of a Date Doctor. its not totally hilarious but it was good nonetheless. recommended.
P.S: you guys may click on the pics on this post, and the previous post to view them on a larger scale
::from left to right, yours truly, birthday gal, and biscuit::
::together with terrence this time::
::i dun quite know this gal except we've clubbed once or twice together::
::with my baby this time, and the tallest guy on the extreme left, i believe has a crush on biscuit *lolz*::
well, and before that we caught Hitch and we thought it was rather good. sweet ending, comical storyline, some pretty heart-wretching parts which showed the reasons for the need of a Date Doctor. its not totally hilarious but it was good nonetheless. recommended.
P.S: you guys may click on the pics on this post, and the previous post to view them on a larger scale
Tuesday, March 08, 2005
| Thankful |
i'm thankful for some people who still believe in me.
i'm thankful that their trust in me didn't waver.
i'm thankful for some people who still love me as a person.
i'm thankful for relationships and friendships still standing strong after this incident, it shows me who are true friends and who are not.
i'm thankful for deardear's support and understanding, it shows me how much i mean to him.
what's past is past. i hope whoever wrote nasty horrible stuff about me would take it out and quit spoiling my reputation. i hope you would honour your words.
that aside, i've decided against closing my blog. like what hongda said, why should i let some immature brat spoil my reputation and then close my blog? i have a gift for writing. *winkz*
i would have posted loads of pics if this incident didn't happen. i should take things easy and let the past go, or i'll grow old very fast. *lolz*
::the bunch of dear's bunkmates::
::my cute baby with his favourite bag he says::
::the bunch of them fooling around their toys::
::my baby's favourite gun::
::out @ Chervon::
::his best friend in camp i think , Lawerence::
i'm thankful that their trust in me didn't waver.
i'm thankful for some people who still love me as a person.
i'm thankful for relationships and friendships still standing strong after this incident, it shows me who are true friends and who are not.
i'm thankful for deardear's support and understanding, it shows me how much i mean to him.
what's past is past. i hope whoever wrote nasty horrible stuff about me would take it out and quit spoiling my reputation. i hope you would honour your words.
that aside, i've decided against closing my blog. like what hongda said, why should i let some immature brat spoil my reputation and then close my blog? i have a gift for writing. *winkz*
i would have posted loads of pics if this incident didn't happen. i should take things easy and let the past go, or i'll grow old very fast. *lolz*
::the bunch of dear's bunkmates::
::my cute baby with his favourite bag he says::
::the bunch of them fooling around their toys::
::my baby's favourite gun::
::out @ Chervon::
::his best friend in camp i think , Lawerence::
Monday, March 07, 2005
| Closure |
i've been in a dilemma if i should close my blog. yesterday and today has been the worst days of my life, i've never been so wronged, never been so accused, never been so maligned. for someone i hardly even know to openly slam me down in her blog was pure accusation. for someone whom i had friendship with for more than two years to jump into conclusion was pure pain. for someone whose been my friend for more than two years to simply say "so-so doesn't want me to get involved" has simply failed to understand my pain.
then it occured to me, what is friendship?
never mind. the crux should be, is closing down my blog good? but i just wanna write. writing is not just my forte, writing is my life!
then it occured to me, what is friendship?
never mind. the crux should be, is closing down my blog good? but i just wanna write. writing is not just my forte, writing is my life!
| Disappointed |
it's amazing how shallow humans can be sometimes? after 2 days of happiness, i was greeted with a series of accusations the moment i was about to do my routine blogging. i'm hurt, and a friendship is lost. there is no reason why i should harp on it even when the odds are against me. i refuse to salvage the friendship, i refuse to save my reputation, there is simply no point. those who know me, would know when faced with adversity, my only choice is silence.
and just for your information, there are other people in my office, i have colleagues who also read blogs. i won't point fingers and say that who did what, just be very careful when making assumptions. i may have casually discussed your problems, relationships etc with them, and even if they really did make those anonymous' comments, its really up to them yah? you can never really have control over people's mouths or thoughts.
although i must say, i honestly would have prefered a more direct and upfront approach rather than slashing my reputation before getting your facts right. preach what you practice, or you lose integrity. period.
and just for your information, there are other people in my office, i have colleagues who also read blogs. i won't point fingers and say that who did what, just be very careful when making assumptions. i may have casually discussed your problems, relationships etc with them, and even if they really did make those anonymous' comments, its really up to them yah? you can never really have control over people's mouths or thoughts.
although i must say, i honestly would have prefered a more direct and upfront approach rather than slashing my reputation before getting your facts right. preach what you practice, or you lose integrity. period.
Friday, March 04, 2005
| Forgiveness |
sometimes forgiveness is a hard thing to do. forgiveness and love goes hand in hand, you need to have love to forgive, and you'll forgive if you love.
sometimes love requires us to say, "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do" (Lk. 23:34). sometimes love requires us to forgive over and over (Mt. 18:21-22). and sometimes love requires us to withhold forgiveness for the sake of the one who has harmed us. in biblical terms, therefore, forgiveness is the loving, voluntary cancellation of a debt. The point is that sin incurs a debt that must be canceled or forgiven. It is the kind of release Jesus spoke of in the many instances in the Bible, therefore there are 5 parts to forgiveness:
1. the offense
2. the confrontation
3. the repentence
4. the forgiveness
5. the restoration
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1. the offense
sin can be defined as any failure to love. denial of pain is a common form of self-deception. we pretend things really don't hurt that much, or we tell ourselves that we are just being too sensitive. a small crack begins in a relationship and steadily widens to the point that there is no real closeness. we then continue the charade by simply saying, "oh well, people change." we miss an opportunity to experience the joy of honest love, forgiveness, and reconciliation. sin is an ongoing problem that erodes the trust and intimacy for which we were made for. forgiveness, therefore, is an ongoing necessity for dealing with our sins against one another. not only do we need to forgive, but we ourselves need to be forgiven by those we have hurt.
2. the confrontation
"Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do" (Lk. 23:34; see also Acts 7:60) but sometimes the nature of the offense and the attitude of the offender require a more direct response like, "i need to let you know how much you have hurt me. you need to know what this has done to our relationship. i feel that you have betrayed my trust." unresolved problems of relationship can result in unexplained distance and coolness. they break down mutual trust, breed fear and avoidance, and if not dealt with can leave the offending party free to go on without accountability. letting an offender off the hook actually encourages him to repeat the same pattern of behavior again and again. a willingness to be lovingly honest with someone who has wronged us takes wisdom and courage. it takes wisdom to know when to speak up and when to keep quiet. it takes courage because there is no way to predict what the outcome will be.
3. the repentence
repentance refers specifically to the change of heart and mind that is necessary for a real change of behavior to take place.
4. the forgiveness
when an offense is dealt with, a forgiving heart can rightly say, "I will no longer hold this against you. I can see that you know you have hurt me and that it was wrong for you to do so."
5. the restoration
when there has been a separation in a relationship and things are made right through repentance and forgiveness, there is a wonderful moment of release that words cannot describe. restoration in our human relationships gives us a finite taste of the joy God experiences when we in repentance come to Him admitting our sin.
a high price is required from both sides involved in the forgiving process. while the cost of forgiveness is high for both the offended and the offender, the price is well worth the joy of restoration and the release that comes because of the renewed relationship. our unwillingness to love those who have harmed us reflects our own failure to understand how much God has loved us.
laymen have this strange thinking to forgive is to forget. well, the "forgive and forget" approach to forgiveness is an attempt to find a way to escape the hurt of the past. but it is based on a wrong assumption. God does not teach us to forget, but rather not to hold sins against one another.
well, that's all i have for you guys. i think after reading this, you would know who this piece of article is directed at. but i only mean well, and thinking through the forgiving process, will help you determine if you can forgive him, and carry on the relationship, or let him go totally.
the offense you found out, you've had the confrontation with him, he also repented and gave you his word of eternity with you. he's done all, now its your turn, all up to you whether you wanna forgive him and restore this relationship with him. i'm still sitting on the fence, not siding either one. please do pray and think about it.
sometimes love requires us to say, "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do" (Lk. 23:34). sometimes love requires us to forgive over and over (Mt. 18:21-22). and sometimes love requires us to withhold forgiveness for the sake of the one who has harmed us. in biblical terms, therefore, forgiveness is the loving, voluntary cancellation of a debt. The point is that sin incurs a debt that must be canceled or forgiven. It is the kind of release Jesus spoke of in the many instances in the Bible, therefore there are 5 parts to forgiveness:
1. the offense
2. the confrontation
3. the repentence
4. the forgiveness
5. the restoration
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1. the offense
sin can be defined as any failure to love. denial of pain is a common form of self-deception. we pretend things really don't hurt that much, or we tell ourselves that we are just being too sensitive. a small crack begins in a relationship and steadily widens to the point that there is no real closeness. we then continue the charade by simply saying, "oh well, people change." we miss an opportunity to experience the joy of honest love, forgiveness, and reconciliation. sin is an ongoing problem that erodes the trust and intimacy for which we were made for. forgiveness, therefore, is an ongoing necessity for dealing with our sins against one another. not only do we need to forgive, but we ourselves need to be forgiven by those we have hurt.
2. the confrontation
"Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do" (Lk. 23:34; see also Acts 7:60) but sometimes the nature of the offense and the attitude of the offender require a more direct response like, "i need to let you know how much you have hurt me. you need to know what this has done to our relationship. i feel that you have betrayed my trust." unresolved problems of relationship can result in unexplained distance and coolness. they break down mutual trust, breed fear and avoidance, and if not dealt with can leave the offending party free to go on without accountability. letting an offender off the hook actually encourages him to repeat the same pattern of behavior again and again. a willingness to be lovingly honest with someone who has wronged us takes wisdom and courage. it takes wisdom to know when to speak up and when to keep quiet. it takes courage because there is no way to predict what the outcome will be.
3. the repentence
repentance refers specifically to the change of heart and mind that is necessary for a real change of behavior to take place.
4. the forgiveness
when an offense is dealt with, a forgiving heart can rightly say, "I will no longer hold this against you. I can see that you know you have hurt me and that it was wrong for you to do so."
5. the restoration
when there has been a separation in a relationship and things are made right through repentance and forgiveness, there is a wonderful moment of release that words cannot describe. restoration in our human relationships gives us a finite taste of the joy God experiences when we in repentance come to Him admitting our sin.
a high price is required from both sides involved in the forgiving process. while the cost of forgiveness is high for both the offended and the offender, the price is well worth the joy of restoration and the release that comes because of the renewed relationship. our unwillingness to love those who have harmed us reflects our own failure to understand how much God has loved us.
laymen have this strange thinking to forgive is to forget. well, the "forgive and forget" approach to forgiveness is an attempt to find a way to escape the hurt of the past. but it is based on a wrong assumption. God does not teach us to forget, but rather not to hold sins against one another.
well, that's all i have for you guys. i think after reading this, you would know who this piece of article is directed at. but i only mean well, and thinking through the forgiving process, will help you determine if you can forgive him, and carry on the relationship, or let him go totally.
the offense you found out, you've had the confrontation with him, he also repented and gave you his word of eternity with you. he's done all, now its your turn, all up to you whether you wanna forgive him and restore this relationship with him. i'm still sitting on the fence, not siding either one. please do pray and think about it.
Thursday, March 03, 2005
Wednesday, March 02, 2005
| *blah* |
can't think of any title despite one week of not blogging. i've been real busy and tired i wanna sleep this very instance!!! *screaming*
1. just took my basic theory test this morning, and i'm hoping i make it through so i can save some time and get to finally drive a car, with an instructor by my side of course. ha! i'm not exactly excited about it because i just have this thing about driving, kinda scares me. *shrugz* but i'm still doing it nevertheless, because its survival skill, daddy said.
2. my second sis drove me to the comfort driving center and waited till i was done with the test, drove me to get breakfast, then finally to the MRT station so i could get to work on time. how sweet was that? *smilez* thanx a million sis, couldn't have made it there on time without you! also not forgetting my dad who was over-protective and insisted on coming along but couldn't get up in the end. *lolz* that's papa dearest for you.
3. biscuit's off to bintan today till friday. she'll be back to work on saturday. some peace at last! haha! just kidding gal. wish ya all the fun, you deserve it after all, though i'm not so sure if you're gonna be with here raining cats and dogs. *tongue sticking out*
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1. saw a caucasian downstairs my office building while out running some errands just now. he was with a pup, a black labrador, real cute. but he was leached up and he kept wanting to smell the passers-by. that's how pups are like. but what was rather disturbing was the fact that the caucasian's most probably an expatriate who just got the pup here locally while he's here for work, for entertainment of course. afterwhich, depending on his love for his pup, he'll either leave the poor pup here at the SPCA or bring him back to his country of origin after his work locally is completed. both ways, the poor pup will have to suffer. *sigh* my heart aches at the mere thought of abandonment. my heart also aches at the countless tests and quarantine the poor thing will have to go through in order for it to be sent to whichever european terrain.
2. received a call from HSA (like finally) this morning. and just as expected, the application has errors and we're required to either withdraw the application and forfeit the application fees, or re-do the entire application. just kill me. i cannot bear the thought of looking at their website, its just too painful for me. sux big time!!!
i rest my case.
1. just took my basic theory test this morning, and i'm hoping i make it through so i can save some time and get to finally drive a car, with an instructor by my side of course. ha! i'm not exactly excited about it because i just have this thing about driving, kinda scares me. *shrugz* but i'm still doing it nevertheless, because its survival skill, daddy said.
2. my second sis drove me to the comfort driving center and waited till i was done with the test, drove me to get breakfast, then finally to the MRT station so i could get to work on time. how sweet was that? *smilez* thanx a million sis, couldn't have made it there on time without you! also not forgetting my dad who was over-protective and insisted on coming along but couldn't get up in the end. *lolz* that's papa dearest for you.
3. biscuit's off to bintan today till friday. she'll be back to work on saturday. some peace at last! haha! just kidding gal. wish ya all the fun, you deserve it after all, though i'm not so sure if you're gonna be with here raining cats and dogs. *tongue sticking out*
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1. saw a caucasian downstairs my office building while out running some errands just now. he was with a pup, a black labrador, real cute. but he was leached up and he kept wanting to smell the passers-by. that's how pups are like. but what was rather disturbing was the fact that the caucasian's most probably an expatriate who just got the pup here locally while he's here for work, for entertainment of course. afterwhich, depending on his love for his pup, he'll either leave the poor pup here at the SPCA or bring him back to his country of origin after his work locally is completed. both ways, the poor pup will have to suffer. *sigh* my heart aches at the mere thought of abandonment. my heart also aches at the countless tests and quarantine the poor thing will have to go through in order for it to be sent to whichever european terrain.
2. received a call from HSA (like finally) this morning. and just as expected, the application has errors and we're required to either withdraw the application and forfeit the application fees, or re-do the entire application. just kill me. i cannot bear the thought of looking at their website, its just too painful for me. sux big time!!!
i rest my case.
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