::Break-Up::

i've been wanting to blog this for the longest time, with regards to one of my good friend (i think), and her boyfriend. reason why i said i think she's my good friend is because we used to be pretty close back then in poly, and we would gossip, confide and work really hard for our projects and grades. in a sense, i was the one who influenced her to the way she is today, i opened her up and taught her how to be strong and confident of herself.
that aside, so i knew her boyfriend back then too, i still know him today. all along, her boyfriend appeared to me as good-natured. if there was anything bad about him, it was probably just due to his playful nature. but he's harmless, really. until he got into ocs and got into bad influence, had a fling which his gal found out about and caused her so much grief. i hated him then. hated him for the fact that he didn't treasure her, and didn't give her the support she needed when she was going through one of the worst periods in her life because of our darn school attachment. i remembered what she told me then, she said she loves this guy too much, she doesn't wanna let him go. she said she couldn't afford to let him go, if she does, she will never love again. regardless of my advices to her, she still listened to her heart and fought for him. he, back then, still had the cheek to negotiate for a one-month period just so he could break off with the other girl. *mouth wide open* why would you need a months' time to break up with someone? moreover, they were only a couple of months's old. disgusting. after much negotiation, they agreed to 10 days, but thankfully the guy still had a heart and did it within 2 days. things after that were strained, but time would heal, or so everyone thought. but i guess only when everything went back to normal did the new environments stepped in and caused another strain. both went to do their degree at different institutes, met new people, did new things and changed. i could see the effort on the guy's part for his constant make-ups. honestly and sadly, it was my friend who changed and just couldn't find any more sparks in the relationship. naturally, how could you when you are in a new environment with so much more eligible bachelors around. blame it on faded feelings? feelings will definitely fade, it is how you deal with the changes and continue the sparks in the relationship that matter. she chose to forgive him, she chose to overlook his moment of folly, it was her choice for letting this guy be the love of her life once again. since it was her choice, she had to live with it. but now, it was also her choice which led her guy to let her go and find herself, her happiness, and her freedom. so sad! *cries* when i knew about it i teared. and ironically it wasn't through my friend which i found out about. this explains why i dunno if we're still good friends or not. attempts to meet up has failed even though promises were made, even she lied about arriving late at about 9 odd for my party. said it was due to work, but her work, which was just around the corner, ends at 7pm. i found out alot later that it was because she was out at sentosa partying with her friends that she arrived late. amazing. maybe i shouldn't have any expectations because after all, i've only known her for 4 years maybe.
i really pity the guy though, move on and find someone else more worthy. dun blame it on your mistake, everyone makes mistakes. just be sure to never let it happen again. i wish you all the best!